I've spent a lot of time thinking about my position on ladies shapewear and control lingerie and actually learned about myself in the process.
|Red accessories, horizontal stripes, low-slung belt buckle deflect eyes from hips, tummy|
|Well-cut tunic and flattering color draw attention upward|
I really hated my stomach for years; it seemed to me that it stuck out way too far. If only I could lose weight, I thought, I'd look good and have a nice tummy.
About a decade ago I lost a lot of weight, not on purpose. And guess what? The stomach hadn't changed, and the extra leftover muffin tissue always found places to go.
For the next few years I kept trying to find ladies shaperwear with no luck. The major problems were sizing and making the midriff bulge more noticeable rather than pushing it in.
I always had to try on larger sizes, but each time I would have trouble even getting the garment on. When it was finally on, it was too uncomfortable.
It still happened as I regained weight and, unfortunately, too much. After continuing to try on shapers, I gave up.
This has happened for centuries. Think about a Scarlet O'Hara having a corset that was probably cutting off her circulation!
Corsets years ago were built with whale bones or metal. How uncomfortable but fashionable for the time.
Pioneer women wore long dresses that often caught on fire as they were cooking food. Many died.
Rich women in Newport, RI, went crazy as they aged because of toxins in their cosmetics. And today's ladies shapewear may be no exception.
How does this relate to Spanx? Well, if you check Google for pros and cons, you'll see some cautions especially for those who tend to get vaginal or urinary infections.
A few women who were squeezed into their shapers like sausages injured a nerve in the abdomen, a more serious incident.
Recently, I came across a magazine article and TV program with doctors who were discussing the use of ladies shapewear, especially naming Spanx, and the consequences that may happen.
The doctors claimed one actress at the Oscars who admitted to having three layers of Spanx and another confessed to two layers.
The physicians explained why ladies shapewear could cause problems. They recommended that women stick to one Spanx and wear it for a short period.
The magazine writer said to go ahead and wear the garment but not every day.
Obviously, neither they or nor I would tell other women what to do, just be cautious. Unfortunately, I have had a bad experience but am doing well now with my own methods.
Today my weight is at a good level, and I have found ways to dress that defuse the problem. Here's where
TV and magazine stylists help. Here are my five favorite ways to keep the stomach in the background.
We have more options than ever to use tops to our advantage. Ruffles, frills, lace, and architectural details -- such as Asian-inspired batwing sleeves -- focus people's attention where you want it so they never notice whether or not you have a nice tummy.
An effectively draped tunic top in a flattering color is another way to create the illusion of a nice tummy and keep attention above your waist.
Pants are great for women with long legs because eyes will be drawn to them.
Midi and maxi skirts are on-trend and also can create the illusion of long, lean lines that make a dramatic statement that defects attention from midriff bulge.
See-through garments are not your friend when you are creating style illusion. The magician doesn't have a hat of clear plastic from which he draws those pretty bunnies, does he?
The same goes for fabrics that cling to rolls of flesh. "Stuffed sausage" is not a good look.
When asked my husband today, it was the necklace first, then my jeans.
Overall we tend to critique ourselves too much. Another eye can give us a balanced picture.
Additionally, it helps to shape our bodies in other ways.
Strengthening exercises for abdomen will help your muscles perform as a natural girdle. Who needs shapewear when your body is in pretty good shape?
Walking and other exercises also help design your nice tummy.
I am lucky to have a gym membership and a trainer. My trainer tells me I already look better and have better balance.
You can exercise with a friend or use DVD if you can't afford the gym or trainer. Silver sneakers is free from some insurance companies.
I walk or use my cycle at least four times a week. Cardio exercise gets your weight down and also gets the feel-good brain chemicals, endorphins, flowing.
When you feel good and know you've done your best to look your best, you probably won't worry so much whether or not you need ladies shapewear.
Good nutrition promotes good physical and mental health.
All of this didn't happen to me overnight. As we all get older, our body parts tell us that we are getting old, even though our brains are still not believing it.
That means some setbacks and meltdowns can occur, but we Athenas (my fashion arcehtype) are practical and can carry on. Now I really love my tummy! And I did it without ladies shapewear.
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